50 Universal Truths About Men

Ladies, here’s the list of what men really think, want and desire in a woman and relationship.

  1. Why should I remind you that “I love you?” I already told you once.
  2. Being respected is more important to me that being loved.
  3. I hate arguing with you. I’d much rather find a compromise.
  4. I love long hair. Sorry, but I do.
  5. When you speak softly, I can’t help but listen.
  6. I need to be told “no” sometimes. Not a lot, but every now and again reminds me that you are expensive.
  7. Please don’t ask me how you look unless you’re willing to trust my answer.
  8. My eyes notice other women a lot more when you are upset with me.
  9. When you’re happy with me I can’t help but want to please you.
  10. If I don’t feel I can make you happy, it makes me feel less than a man.
  11. I expect you to be ready when I pick you up.
  12. Cigarettes make any woman look cheap and easy.
  13. I’m scared if I let a woman inside my heart, she’ll take advantage of me.
  14. If you can’t stand up to me when I’m a brat, you’re too weak for me to open up to when I’m upset.
  15. Sitting quietly next to me after you’ve made me a meal is your get-out-of-the-doghouse-free ticket. You’ll be surprised how quickly I can forgive.
  16. You did something hurtful. If I never bring it up, I’m considering leaving you.
  17. I don’t read minds. Remember, I’m not a woman.
  18. You may know fashion, but I wish you’d dress to please me, not other women.
  19. If I’m losing my hair, it’s not funny. Would you like me to joke about your weight?
  20. When I talk to you about golf and you act bored, it would be nice for you to remember all the times I’ve listened to you talk about what is important to you.
  21. The woman I love is easy to please. She appreciates the effort I put into making her happy, even if I get the details wrong.
  22. You look hot in a dress.
  23. I hate being told what to do when I don’t ask for help. It makes me feel like you’re my mother.
  24. If you sleep over, I might eventually marry you, but I’m less motivated.
  25. During sex my ears are as sensitive to your words as your skin is to my touch.
  26. I need some type of signal or cue to walk across the room and approach you. What if you’re married!?
  27. It makes me feel like you trust me when you ask for my advice.
  28. It feels competitive when you insist on being in charge.
  29. I’ll do anything for sex; even commit to you for life.
  30. I want every man to envy me when we arrive as a couple. Please don’t let yourself go.
  31. When I’m upset I am very tone sensitive. How you say it is more important than what you say.
  32. I hate it when you minimize, ignore or tell me I don’t mean my compliments. It makes me want to stop giving them.
  33. I’m more insecure than you think. Why do you think I need your respect so much?
  34. I don’t always know how I feel. That’s why I don’t tell you.
  35. I don’t need you to do things for me. What I crave is being able to please you.
  36. If I do one thing and say something contradictory – go with my actions – that will always tell you what’s in my heart.
  37. I find myself wanting to please you when you simply smile at me without asking for something (like a favor).
  38. I really don’t want to hear about any of your ex-boyfriends, regardless of the point.
  39. If I don’t share what I’m thinking, it’s because I don’t think you will listen without interrupting.
  40. I don’t like to argue and I don’t like to guess what’s wrong. Just tell me so I can fix it.
  41. I love it when you put your hair in a pony tail. Yes, it’s a Freudian thing.
  42. Don’t ask me, “Are you going to wear that?” when I’m already dressed.
  43. A gentleman should always be respected by his lady in public, even if she is disagreeing with him.
  44. If you don’t believe you’re pretty, you won’t believe me when I tell you, no matter how many times I say it.
  45. It isn’t how much you weigh, it’s that your body is proportionate, which is so attractive.
  46. Sometimes I have weird, strange or very sexual thoughts. I don’t take them seriously and I don’t want to share them with you (or anyone).
  47. Sometimes you really don’t want to know what I’m thinking. See above.
  48. If you cheat on me, it is nearly impossible for me to get over it.
  49. I don’t remember everything about our relationship but that doesn’t mean I don’t love you.
  50. I need some time to myself to calm down when I’m upset so that I don’t say something I will regret.


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40 Responses to “50 Universal Truths About Men”

  1. Cathi Lohman March 6, 2013 1:21 am #

    some of these are some good reminders!

  2. Linker r4 3ds March 28, 2013 5:52 pm #

    Current blog, fresh information, I read it from time to time!!

  3. Unlock His Heart November 6, 2013 6:17 am #

    I find point number 2 interesting. Whilst it is very common for men to do just anything for sex, It very much depends on the man and the situation. I think a man who truly likes a woman will often delay sex in the early days of dating a woman. Why? Nervousness, not wanting to stuff things up, really likes the idea of a future with a women. In my opinion this often puts a woman in the position of wanting to bring sex into the equation before the man does. Often causing women to lead too much with sex, and give the wrong impression of themselves.

    Something else to think about is this, men reach emotional intimacy with a woman through sex, women want the emotional intimacy before they have sex with a man. Makes you wonder where, do strike a balance?

  4. Ogunleye Florence December 23, 2013 10:26 am #

    FACT !!!

  5. Suguntha Venoo May 3, 2014 9:44 am #

    During after work drinks, few girl friends and I were talking about husbands and partners yesterday.I mean 'what actuallt men thinking'..We talked about most of the things on the list…So that means we wifes do understand the facts about men…:)

  6. Mike Bloxham May 11, 2014 5:53 pm #

    Most of these are ridiculous, whoever came up with these is a misogynistic dimwit.

  7. David in Denver May 11, 2014 11:27 pm #

    While some of the points are true, the article is obviously written by a woman. There’s too much emotion, twisted logic, and double talk to have been written by a man. It’s a woman’s best guess as to what motivates a man thrown in with some obvious statements. Waste of time.

  8. Jarret M. Spiler May 13, 2014 6:23 pm #

    39, 46, 34, definitely number 7. Lot of good ones

  9. Lauren Jennings May 14, 2014 3:33 pm #

    What an idiot!

  10. Lauren Jennings May 15, 2014 12:13 pm #

    LOVE YOU!!!! xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

  11. El doucheo May 15, 2014 11:07 am #

    I was reading this and was feeling down. Then I read the second post ‘what an absolute teat’ and it restored my faith in humanity. Thank you captain just, my hero

  12. Mark Captain Just May 15, 2014 11:37 am #

    what an absolute twat! i agree with about 3 or 4 of those statements.

  13. Claudia Zar May 17, 2014 6:13 am #

    i absolutely hate these kind of "articles"….mundane articles written by mundane, arrogant people with closed minds.

  14. worthcommenting May 19, 2014 12:05 pm #

    i really respect this….really. but what if the tables were turned……

  15. Stefan May 21, 2014 7:23 pm #

    I realized this article does not say much about men, but rather tells a woman how to behave around their partner.
    Some points have this pattern :at first the arguement, then the mistake the woman has made.
    Some other points are not universal at all (when it goes about preferences).
    Some are simply idiotic and do not see the realtionship on an adult level(e.g. #35 and #43).

    And I’ld like to point out #21….is this woman this point refers to a dog or a toddler?
    And there are some points, which – rude spoken- tell women just to get their mind sorted
    (e.g. #44).

    IF this was written by a man, then only to make his life easier and not in order to make a better relationship…in my opinion

    • Bob Grant, L.P.C.
      Bob Grant, L.P.C. May 22, 2014 6:22 pm #

      My My, this seems to have touched a nerve.

      • SNA May 31, 2014 8:44 am #

        I know! How rude and aggressive people seems to be on the internet. I’m a guy and a lot of this seemed true to me, but definitely not all of it. You can never expect that from a list like this.

  16. Ryan Johnson May 25, 2014 9:49 pm #

    Wow, this is ridiculous and sexists to both genders.

  17. Ryan Johnson May 25, 2014 9:49 pm #

    Wow, this is ridiculous and sexists to both genders.

  18. Chris Powell May 25, 2014 9:56 pm #

    it's true, men who are ***nuggets pretend their ***nuggetry is OK by convincing themselves that everyone else is just as ***nuggetous

  19. Sebastian Stalder May 29, 2014 9:59 pm #

    This is blatantly sexist, heteronormative, and gender-normative.

  20. David Seiter May 31, 2014 1:37 pm #

    Generalizations that not only don't apply to many men but also serve to propagate misconceptions and negative stereotypes that create barriers to healthy relationships.

  21. Emma Vulpix Looshk June 22, 2014 1:55 am #

    You're insulting all of the wonderful, intelligent, loving, kind and generous men I know and making them look like shallow idiots.
    So up yours Bob Grant God forbid any misled man or woman should take on your awful advice.

    • Bob Grant, L.P.C.
      Bob Grant, L.P.C. June 22, 2014 4:26 pm #

      Actually, If you’ll read these more carefully you’ll notice that this isn’t a put down on men. If you really think that none of these apply to men, then honestly you’re living in a fantasy world.

  22. Ron Gomillion June 25, 2014 1:45 am #

    This is disgusting…

  23. Lynn Peters June 27, 2014 6:04 am #

    stupid. I'm getting old and I can see by these comments, men have not learned a damned thing. If I had it do do over again knowing what I know now, screw men, I would live alone and FREE, without a man running my life and breaking my heart…..

    • Bob Grant, L.P.C.
      Bob Grant, L.P.C. June 27, 2014 10:05 am #

      Take heart. Not all me think like the comments you’ve read. There are men that really do get how lucky they would be to have a woman share their life with them.

  24. Leah June 27, 2014 8:48 pm #

    ”You may know fashion, but I wish you’d dress to please me, not other women.”

    Or maybe I dress to please myself? As an individual and equally valuable human being, I deserve to make myself happy as well.

    ”Cigarettes make any woman look cheap and easy.”

    Everyone has their vices. It is insane that you would attribute something as shallow as smoking cigarettes to being easy. (And there is nothing wrong with being easy, considering men are allowed to sleep around as much as they please without anyone deciding their value is directly related to their sexual history).

    ”I really don’t want to hear about any of your ex-boyfriends, regardless of the point.”

    I think an extremely important part of a relationship is to always review the past. We carry it with us every single day. If I was in an abusive relationship, hurt before, or had a difficult time with past relationships they will effect me today. I need a partner who is confident enough with himself to see it not as a competition, but instead an adult understanding of one another on a complex level.

    ”I want every man to envy me when we arrive as a couple. Please don’t let yourself go.”

    I think this is cruel. No one wants to see themselves deteriorate. It doesn’t make anyone feel good. Do not take someone else’s ageing issues and make it about yourself. How insensitive. Women, mostly, are very self conscious. Why would you make her beauty about you? Why does her entire existence revolve around making you look good?

    These were just a few I had issues with. I don’t like any of the comments that you have made. I find them all extremely sexist and self serving. Borderline disgusting. I agree with many of the comments made by others. I don’t think you have ever had a deeply successful and loving relationship before. It should be a partnership but it seems as if your patriarchal viewpoint is abusive and manipulative. I am a professional young woman and I think you are too deeply entrenched in a masculine box to even understand vulnerability and equality. Woman are constantly attacked on a daily bases – while men’s greatest fear is not being respected. I fear being harassed, raped, or sexually assaulted. The one place I should feel adequate, respected, and loved unconditionally is in my relationship. Your “universal” truths are unhealthy.

    • Bob Grant, L.P.C.
      Bob Grant, L.P.C. June 28, 2014 8:05 pm #

      I appreciate you taking the time to leave a comment. I believe some of your comments seem to focus on a sense of how things should be.
      That a relationship is about equals.
      A relationship is about compliments. To pretend that a woman who smokes is simply a vice that has no effect on how most men would view that woman is…sorry…but naive.

      If you think it doesn’t matter whether a woman takes care of herself – then I’m not sure you know much about men.
      I would say something similar to men.
      For a man, don’t expect her to be your mommy. When there is some problem that you can solve, solve it.
      Sure it’s ok to share your pain, but don’t ever make excuses for your lack of accomplishing a goal that was within your power to accomplish.

      See, that’s not _____________ (pick whichever name you want to call it). It’s based on most women wanting to feel secure in a relationship.

      Perhaps that doesn’t apply to you.

      As a professional young woman, is there any chance that maybe you don’t understand men as well as you believe you do?

  25. Jonathan Gamache July 10, 2014 9:52 pm #

    whereas you are not at all I guess

  26. Claudia Zar July 10, 2014 9:59 pm #

    I can't say that Iam, no. But thanks for adding your 2 cents worth.

  27. Shallyn Lynxleg July 14, 2014 6:55 am #

    so true.

  28. Cello Kerr July 31, 2014 11:40 pm #

    bob grant, you should kill yourself

  29. Larry Brooks August 2, 2014 8:47 am #

    It all sounds like "ONE" man's opinion with his own life experiences. So be it. But, I disagree with a lot of it.

    • Bob Grant, L.P.C.
      Bob Grant, L.P.C. August 2, 2014 4:57 pm #

      Fair enough. But please be specific and remember, it’s a list that’s suppose to be a little fun.

  30. Osianna Cornell August 23, 2014 6:40 am #

    I knew from the first one that this article was bs. This entire article is full of garbage sexism and male oriented propaganda. "I want every man to envy me when we arrive as a couple. Please don’t let yourself go." I looked up pictures of you Mr.Grant and you should probably look in a *#*&!* mirror. "I wish you’d dress to please me" because women are objects right? You *#@%# $%*@#% pig.

    • Bob Grant, L.P.C.
      Bob Grant, L.P.C. August 23, 2014 8:42 pm #

      Ladies, if this is the attitude you have then can you imagine how this comes across to men? Disagree…no problem, but when it inflames you then men don’t find that endearing, they find it scary.


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