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Never Knew What CommitMEANT
Why do men struggle with commitment?
This question about the tendency in men to
find it hard to commit seems to surface over and over again from women all
around the world. If I could identify in a few simple strokes of the
keyboard on a page of my site the answer to this question, I would be a
hero to women everywhere.
Not to worry, I haven't put on my hero
tights and cape just yet. I would, however, like to share a few thoughts
with you on this.
Here are a few things I have heard stated
about men and commitment over the years.
-Men find the conquest and the chase more desirable
than actually winning the girl.
-Men find their identity in their vocation more than
they do in
relationships.
-Men are on an ego trip and find their validation from
the attention they receive from many women.
-Men are looking for a trophy wife.
Some of these things may have elements of
truth in them, after all, man is a complicated puzzle, but I would like to
direct your attention to another possible missing piece of that puzzle.
It has been my observation over the years
in my communications and dealings with men that men struggle with
commitment because they primarily have developed the wrong focus. Women
want men to naturally commit of his own free will when he has been
instructed, influenced and programmed to do the opposite.
Consider some of the things popularized in
our culture as reading materials for men and you'll see what I mean. In
magazines targeting male readership women are portrayed as a sport, as a
"Bunny" paraded around in bunny costumes and as "Pets" of the month.
Adding to the fuel and feeding of this
mindset are male-focused establishments named after the body parts of a
woman and so-called Gentlemen's Clubs. Don't even get me started on
Hollywood, shock jocks, the porn industry, the sensual music videos
objectifying women and the smut circulating all over the Internet.
Men have developed a tendency to...
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