-chase after the nighttime more than the lifetime
-make relationships more about passion than promise
-seek relations more than relationship
-make the URGE more important a focus than the MERGE
This tendency in man to chase after the
physical is the reason women are the ones who often lose when the
relationship is founded on more of a sexual directive. The man gets what he
is really more comfortable with and programmed to seek and the woman is left
to long for deeper intimacy and commitment.
The problem usually arises when women take a
man whose focus is more about the nighttime and expect him to naturally
pursue the lifetime.
I think men need to be deprogrammed from this
shallow mindset and reprogrammed to think differently. The greatest men I
know are men of character and commitment. The greatest men I know have a
pursuit for something more permanent. The greatest men I know are men of
promise. The greatest men I know find value and fulfillment in seeking the
lifetime more than they do the nighttime.
I just had to experience saying
my goodbyes to my father. He was 75-years old and passed away in early
October. As I looked at the casket containing his body and my mom who stood
by his side for 55-years of marriage, I was again reminded of all this.
Pictures of his children and
his children's children decorated the satin cloth where he rested. I am so
thankful that my parents modeled for me that a successful relationship is
more about LEG-A-CY than about how much LEG-I-SEE.
One of the saddest things that will ever be
said about a man is that he didn't ever really know what commitMEANT.
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