When a man has stopped contacting you, should
you send him an email telling him that you have
moved on?
Recently I heard from a woman who is in this exact
situation. Here's what she wrote:
Question:
"Hi Mimi,
I have put together a short letter which I am
planning to email to this guy in about a week's
time. To me it is closure of this
chapter, I have learned lessons from it, and I just
want to turn the situation around as he has been
blowing hot and cold with me since I told him how
much I liked him.
"He only seems to want me when he can't have me,
but when he knows he can have me he gets bored and
ignores me. I haven't contacted him now for a few
days, which will probably give him a surprise,
because for the past couple of months, I have run
after him.
"I would like to be strong and get my head
together and get across to him that I am NOT going
to run after him anymore and that I don't just sit
around waiting to hear from him.
"When I first met him I was strong, smart and
independent and he liked that about me, but once he
told me how much he wanted me, I opened up to him
about MY feelings and that was a big
mistake, because then HE backed off!!
"I would be very grateful for your advice.
Do you feel this would help turn the situation
around? I have to be honest, I've been running after
him, telling him how great and how gorgeous he is
and making myself available all the time.
"I want the part of me back that is strong,
independent and smart. I am so dearly hoping to get
things right this time.
"Thank you, -- Carmen"
Carmen's email to her ex-boyfriend is 4 paragraphs
long, and it ends with this:
"For the first time, in a long time, I am looking
forward to a bright and happy future. I'm not in a
rush to tie myself down again with anyone. Right now
I'm still not sure who I want to be with, all I know
is I want the best for myself, I'm smart, I've good
judgment and I don't go out with just anyone. I'm
happy as I am, and things are looking up."
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