The
Argument Women Can't Win
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The man feels tricked by
acting strong only to pull the feelings card out when she was starting to
loose the argument so now he feels entitled to punish her. That
really is how most men think in that scenario.
If you are a woman, a
practical rule when discussing a topic is that if you want to debate,
prove or compete with your boyfriend/husband then stay in that role
throughout the discussion. If you want to be understood or nurtured, then
relate to him by sharing how you feel about the subject.
Don't switch to becoming
a soft, feeling and vulnerable woman after you have presented
yourself logically. All that will do is encourage him not to discuss
things with you in the future. He'll be afraid of you dropping the
feelings bomb.
Most of the time I would
suggest that you start off softly by speaking to him about how you feel
concerning the issue so he can recognize your feelings which will signal
to him that you are not trying to be competitive.
On the occasions you do
need to prove your point, hold your ground regardless of how you feel.
Remember it doesn't matter as much which way you relate to him, the most
important thing you can do is not to combine the two.
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