....the first inclination of boredom or the first
disagreement comes about, they begin to question the
entire relationship.
Some
of it may be because of his childhood and past
unresolved issues, but even with years of therapy,
this type of man will always have a tendency, even if
it’s slight, to have doubts about a relationship from
time to time because he’s a little more feeling
oriented than a man who is more stable.
Therefore, the fabulous man is very exciting and the
downside is that his doubts and impatience will scare
you from time to time.
A
strong and steady man is more predictable and,
therefore, safer. This type of man is not given to
having a lot of doubts once he has decided he cares
for a woman. He will not have the mood swings because
he does not get as high as often.
He
does not rely on the intensity of feelings that a
fabulous man does. He feels deeply, but it takes him
longer to achieve this emotional bond with a woman.
There is less concern of him being unfaithful, of
having doubts once he is in a committed relationship.
The
downside of this type of man is that, at times, he
will be a little boring.
In
reality, he really isn’t boring, but whenever anything
is safe, it feels a little dull. A safe job, a safe
stock portfolio and safe friends all aren’t as
exciting because there isn’t as much to lose. The
strong and steady man, because of his predictability,
won’t provide as many emotional swings that some women
crave.
When
I go over this with a client, inevitably what they say
is, “I like a mixture of both.” Remember, every man is
a mixture of both, but they will have one primary
style of relating to the world.
If
you insist on having a perfect mixture of both
(50-50), then what you really want in a husband is a
father figure.
My
daughter at the time of this writing is three years
old. As her father, I am supposed to be fabulous and
strong. What enables me to do this with her is that I
am completely in charge of her life.
I do
not depend on my daughter for my emotional well being.
A man who is both doesn’t need a woman in his life
unless he’s looking for a woman to dominate.
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