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(an excerpt from "The Woman Men Adore...and Never Want to Leave")
 

Years ago, there was a therapist I worked with named Susan. Susan told me she went to a seminar that a friend of ours named Steve was giving.

Since she thought she may want to do similar seminars in the future about marriage, she wanted to see how Steve made his presentation.

So, Susan took her husband Dave and during the seminar, Steve made this statement: "What you call your spouse, they will become". Now, Susan had been married for 20 years, and when she heard this statement she laughed to herself as she leaned over to Dave and said, "Ha, skinny!"

Dave leaned toward her, laughing, and said, "Haha, sexy!" After the seminar was over, she said to me, "Bob, I made it a point to try that, just to see what would happen.

For 10 years, Dave weighed 215 pounds, and hadn't been able to get rid of more than 5 pounds at a time, and then he got discouraged and gave up." So, Susan began to call Dave "skinny" and "slim" as the opportunities presented themselves.

After 2 months, she asked him how his weight was coming, and he reported that he had lost over 18 pounds. She was amazed.

At the end of the story, I paused and asked her, "Susan, does Dave call you sexy?" She gave me a pained smile and said, "No." Immediately I thought to myself, "that's too bad because Dave probably has no idea what he's missed out on."

It wasn't that Susan needed a makeover or that there was anything wrong with her at all.

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