It can be fun and exciting to get dressed up, put on a sexy pair of heels and go out to dinner with a cute guy you met online. It’s fun to have someone tell you how beautiful you are, share a nice conversation, and overall have a great time on a date. Then there’s the other side of dating; when you get burned out.
When the idea of going on ANOTHER first date sounds like torture and you feel like if you have to talk about what you do for a living again with someone new you’re going to crack up! That’s the downside of dating too much.
If you’re starting to come up with excuses to cancel your date or you start avoiding your online profile inbox’s because you just can’t deal with it anymore, it means it’s time to take a break from dating. I’ve compiled a list of 3 Signs it’s Time to Take a Break from Dating:
1. No Time for Yourself
If you feel like you’re giving all of your free time to dating and not taking time for yourself you might need to take a break and put yourself first again!
Don’t stop your hobbies, or hanging out with your friends and family for dating. It’s understandable that you want to meet someone to share life with, however if that desire is taking over everything in your life you need to refocus and get your priorities straight. While dating it’s important you don’t lose yourself.
If you enjoy yoga, a painting class once a week after work, and brunch with family on Sunday, don’t stop doing those things because you’re trying to schedule in too many dates. Make sure you’re getting all the “me” time you need because that’s what’s going to help you bring your best version of yourself to whoever you meet, whenever or wherever you happen to do so.
2. It’s not Fun Anymore
When you stop getting excited about your next first date, or even worse start coming up with excuses to cancel on them it probably means you’re getting burned out on the dating scene, and rightfully so! It’s exhausting to keep up with everything in life including work, family, friends, and when you add in trying to find a partner as well, it’s another thing on your list of things to do.
When dating becomes like a part-time job and less like something fun to look forward to, it probably means you need to focus on those other things in your life for a little while until the idea of meeting someone new excites you again. Remember: it’s okay to take a break; there will always be more dating opportunities!
3. You’re too Obsessed
Do you wake up in the middle of the night to check and see if the guy you’ve been chatting with online has responded to your message yet? Do you ignore other responsibilities in your life and only schedule date after date because you are determined to find “the one” within a certain time frame? Going on too many dates and joining too many online dating sites can have the opposite effect and unfortunately result in a dating obsession.
Losing sleep, not taking care of yourself, or letting go of your responsibilities is not healthy and will make you unattractive. Don’t ignore the most important person in your life—you! Take a break if it’s causing you too much stress or you’re getting obsessed with finding a partner. Relax and enjoy putting yourself first for a little while and come back to the dating scene after taking a little refresher.
Remember how awesome you are and that being single is okay. By allowing yourself to take a break from the dating world you’re actually making yourself better for when you jump back in. You won’t lose your only opportunity to meet someone by prioritizing yourself, your job, your friends, your hobbies or anything else in your life.
Enjoy being you for a little while; it will only benefit you on your quest for love in the long run.
Meena Avery is the dating deviant you can't help but love and wish you never met. She’s a quirky and heart-breaking romantic writer who’s a little too blunt, only likes to wear skirts, and shares extremely personal (often embarrassing) stories from her dating life, all while attempting to offer advice along the way. She’s written about being a famous rock-star’s muse, throwing up on a guy after a first kiss, and (most importantly) finally experiencing mind-blowing passion (in every room of the house). Meena’s journey has inspired her desire to let other hopeful-yet-frequently-disappointed singles know that they are not alone by creating her blog Impress Me...Please? Meena also contributes regularly to a variety of popular dating blogs and is currently working on her first book.
For more information please visit her website: http://www.impressmeplease.com