Every woman wants to know what she needs to look for when trying to decide if she has found long-lasting love... the kind of love that is shown in movies and written about by poets.
But what are the practical and obvious tell-tale signs? Yes, trust, respect, love, and passion are important... and need to be thought about when building a relationship. But there is more. There’s commitment, maintenance, and overall fit that are just as important to consider. Here are 4 obvious signs you can use to help you identify long-lasting love. Of course all 4 criteria need to flow both ways. It’s about giving to each other rather than waiting for your partner to give to you. Because only the gifts you freely give to another can you also easily receive.
1. It just feels right.
Surely you can recall a relationship you tried to force to work out. And even though you may have given it your all, deep down you knew something just didn’t feel right. Likewise, there’s also a tell-tale feeling when your relationship is ‘just right'. You’ll know you’ve found lasting love when you don't have to work hard or manipulate your partner in order for your relationship to feel good; when you’re comfortable with each other's hobbies, lifestyle, and personal histories. More importantly, neither of you are pressured to change who you are to make each other happy. You both just feel at ease and comfortable with each other.
2. Willing to talk through problems.
Relationship maintenance takes a certain amount of emotional maturity. When getting into a relationship, we’re all well aware that it won’t always be smooth sailing. Disagreements will arise, opinions will clash, and you won’t always be happy with each other’s choices. But any person, who’s willing to discuss what works and doesn’t work shows signs of great wisdom. People like this are more interested in fixing a broken relationship, instead of discarding it and finding a new one. There’s no better sign of lasting love than determination to make it work.
3. He’s got your back.
Knowing your partner has your back is a wonderful sign of his commitment to you and to building a healthy life together. Commitment and support are shown when he invests his time and energy to help cover YOUR weak spots. This very act sets you up as a team creating long-lasting love instead of adversaries in a competition. But be careful not to develop expectations of your partner to solve all your problems. This is about your partner complimenting you, not taking over details of your life.
4. Playfulness exist.
Playfulness is a natural human expression and it’s never as pleasurable as when done with someone you’re emotionally intimate with. Besides, relationships ought to be about fun as much as they’re about building and achieving goals together. Playfulness will keep your passion, relationship, and love alive. Anything else will work against preserving your long-lasting love.
Empowerment Coach, Ivana Pejakovic, B.Sc., MA, provides training and support to kind-hearted and genuine women who struggle with their self-esteem, feel stuck and trapped, or are emotionally exhausted. Her educational programs, products, as well as in-person and online coaching and mentoring are geared toward helping her clients Reach Their Full Potential.