by Helena Hart
When you're with a man, are you looking to him as HOLDING something that you want? Like he's holding the key to YOUR happiness or "lovable-ness"?
Next time you're with a man, really notice - when you look at him, do you really see HIM, or do you only see what you WANT from him?
Notice if you find yourself thinking about how much happier you'd be if your love life was "on track."
See if you can catch yourself when you're looking to a man to make everything - including YOU - feel complete.
There are many reasons why we look to others to fix what's wrong in our lives. Sometimes the unmet needs from our childhood are so great that we're constantly looking to someone else to fulfill them on an unconscious level.
The problem is, these needs often run so deep that another person would not be capable of fulfilling them for us - so we need to learn how to meet those needs for ourselves.
Or, you may be so busy trying to please others all the time that you never learned how to make YOURSELF happy.
If you're anything like I was before I turned my love life around - when you're with a man, you may find yourself frantically trying everything you can to make him love you and "close the deal" so that your life will finally be complete.
It's this energy that pushes a man away. No matter how hard you try to "play it cool", men are extremely sensitive to this and will feel it in your vibe.
This needy vibe will either repel a man from the beginning, or keep the relationship from moving forward - where the connection just isn't strong enough to make him fall in love and feel devoted to you forever.
The good news is, creating this kind of attraction is SO much easier than you think! It involves getting out of that mindset where a man holds the key to your happiness or your "lovable-ness" - and putting that key in your OWN hands.
It's about discovering what it is that would make you feel happy or complete, and learning how to meet those needs for yourself. In other words, you want to stop waiting for a man to fulfill your dreams and start making your OWN dreams come true.
Once you do this, the man you're with now will start to see you in a completely new way - or if you're single, the right kind of men will start showing up!
To get started, write down all the things that you've been waiting to do or accomplish until your love life is "on track." Write out a plan to start making these dreams come true for yourself right now.
Waiting for your love life to improve before accomplishing these goals may actually be what's holding you back in your relationships.
Getting your masculine energy in gear for yourself this way - rather than using it to "make something happen" in dating and relationships - will make all the difference in the world for you.
It will create the space for you to be in your feminine energy when you're with a man, which will make him feel incredibly attracted and connected to you.
Once you become the kind of woman who knows how to make HERSELF happy, you'll start attracting the kind of men who want to make you happy too!
As a Certified Life and Relationship Coach with a masters degree in Psychology, a Master Coach Teacher for Rori Raye, and author of "Attract The Man You Want" and the "Effortlessly Attract Love Program", Helena Hart helps people all over the world effortlessly attract love into their lives - and she can get results for you quickly.
Whether you're recently single or you've been single for years - or you're in a relationship that seems to be going nowhere - Helena can help you quickly and permanently turn your love life around. You'll be amazed at how easy and FUN it can be to attract love and the right kind of partner into your life, without having to work so hard!
If you're ready to inspire the kind of deep attraction and devotion that makes a man fall in love and want to be with you forever, visit http://helenahartcoaching.com/. You can instantly download your FREE "3 Keys To Attract The Man You Want" report and book a FREE 30-minute coaching session with Helena!