by Helena Hart
Increasing your value in a man's eyes always starts with increasing your value in your OWN eyes first. Women who are truly confident and know they’re a "prize" naturally have a high perceived value in men's eyes.
This is a very different feeling and "vibe" than chasing a man down, trying to impress HIM and prove to him that you're a great catch.
One of the most common mistakes women make when it comes to attracting the man they want is making it too easy for him. There's this common fear that if we don't make things easy for a man – by always being available to him and taking an active role in moving the relationship forward – he's going to lose interest.
The OPPOSITE is actually true – making it too easy actually repels masculine-energy men and causes their attraction for you to fade.
Making it too easy for a man looks like always initiating contact with him, asking him out, driving to him for dates, paying on dates, offering to help him with something if he hasn't specifically asked, holding space open for him in your schedule if he hasn't asked you out yet, playing "therapist" or "counselor" by helping him figure something out if he hasn't asked for your help, accepting "crumbs" from a man, and tolerating bad behavior or anything that doesn't feel good to you.
Pretending to be "hard to get" will NOT increase your value in a man's eyes. In fact, pretending ANYTHING will come across as needy, insecure, and desperate to a man.
Playing "hard to get" might get you a short-term result, but the only way to permanently increase your value in a man's eyes is to truly increase your value in your OWN eyes first. If you skip this step, he'll be able to pick up in your vibe that this is all about HIM – which will weaken his attraction to you and DECREASE your value in his eyes.
Men can smell a "strategy" a mile away – they're very sensitive to this. In other words, it HAS to be authentic!
Many women are afraid that increasing their value in their own eyes will come across as self-centered or "difficult" and scare a man off – but the opposite is actually true! The truth is, a man CAN'T fall in love with a woman who doesn't love herself, take care of herself, and put her OWN heart first.
This also isn't about acting "cold" or ignoring a man - you want to be warm, open, and receptive to him when he shows up.
This combination of DISTANCE (having high standards, self-esteem, and a full life outside of him) and WARMTH (being open and receptive to him when he shows up) is unbelievably attractive to a man!
This is what will inspire his masculine need to pursue you and win you over. If you can keep this "high-value woman" vibe going during the courtship of dating and throughout the entire relationship, everything else will fall into place.
Once you get this vibe down and it starts to feel more natural – men will feel irresistibly attracted to you, and all kinds of things will start to organically shift in the right direction!
As a Certified Life and Relationship Coach with a masters degree in Psychology, a Master Coach Teacher for Rori Raye, and author of "Attract The Man You Want", Helena Hart helps people all over the world effortlessly attract love into their lives - and she can get results for you quickly.
Whether you're recently single or you've been single for years - or you're in a relationship that seems to be going nowhere - Helena can help you quickly and permanently turn your love life around. You'll be amazed at how easy and FUN it can be to attract love and the right kind of partner into your life, without having to work so hard!