For years women have always been wondering how they can make a man chase them. There have been tons and tons of advice given to women about how to get a guy and keep him interested. But for some reason, we still find women searching for the same advice. Sometimes, one meets a dude, has sex with him and then the guy just disappears. He stops texting, ignores calls… So you end up wondering, where did I go wrong?
Women have been told to make the first move. Then there is also the contradicting advice that tells women to stop chasing men. SO what really works? Which is the best strategy that a woman should employ in order to make a man want her and find her irresistible?
Well, below are some tips one can try out in order to get a man to do the chasing and get hooked on you.
1. Stop doing the chasing
Now, this doesn’t mean that a woman should not take control of her own dating life and not make the first move. If you like a guy, let him know. But I think that is as far as the chasing should go. If you make him aware of your interest in him and he reciprocates, then it’s time to take a step back and let him do the chasing.
The thing is: men really don’t like it when women show them that they desperately want to be in a relationship with them. Most of the time women try and make it easy on a man because they don't really understand exactly what guys like. Men really like doing the chasing because one of the keys for a man to fall in love is he must pursue a woman. It is the very act of trying to capture her heart that makes him feel lucky to have her in his life.
Let him ask you out on a date. Let him do the texting. Don’t let yourself lose control by nagging him into wanting you. This will scare him off as he might start wondering what is wrong with you that’s making you try too hard.
So, if you feel you are the one who is in constant communication with him, it’s time to take a chill pill. Be a little mysterious. Take back the control and make him see that you have standards. Let him see that you are confident in yourself … confident enough not to be afraid of him not wanting. Do this and he will for sure want more of you.
Men love the thrill of chasing and winning a woman’s affection.
2. Don’t play too hard to get
Now you might think this one is contradicting the first strategy. Well, it's not. The key here is not to be desperately available. At the same time, you also need to at least hint that you dig him too. So don’t be too hard on him as this will also drive him away. Much as they love the chase, being too rigid isn’t fun. If anything, it will make him work too hard to win you over just to prove a point - then dump you.
You need to strike a balance here. Be a little mysterious. But as you are doing this, lead him on a little by flirting with him. Give the dude some hope that you are worth the chase. Create that little "push-pull" effect that will increase his attraction to you. And chasing he will do.
3. Always maintain some mystery
I can't tell you how often women have a great time with a man on the first date and then never hear from him again. While it's not one of the 3 biggest mistakes women make on a first date, it almost makes the top 3. Talk about yourself in small doses. Let him be the one to ask these questions. Make him want to know more about you. Let him guess what you are all about. This way he will find you interesting enough to chase you. Let him do the work of finding out more about you.
The reason it's so bad to share too much is because it TENSION between a new couple. Tension is the secret ingredient that drives a man wild with desire. In fact using tension correctly will make a man think about you for days after a date. It's the same principle that musicians are taught about a performance - always leave them yearning for more... Get it?
Ando Miwako is a blog writer who writes for the website TemptAsian, a dating site dedicated to Asian men and women interested and/or involved in interracial relationships. She helps people find, build and improve interracial romantic relationships.