What He Wants

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Most women ask me what they can say to make a man act or respond in a certain way. While there are some things you can say that work better than others, there really isn't anything that works all the time.
Think about it, can you imagine me telling a man what to say that would get you to do whatever he wanted you to do?
The only way that is virtually fool proof is to learn how to be Captivating to a man. That's where the power is for a woman. The Authentic woman will always own a man's heart and he won't mind one bit.

Holly has Passion - Guys Like Holly

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I know a woman named Holly. She specializes in helping website owners understand what appeals to women. That may not sound very exciting, and for most individuals - it isn't. However, Holly is passionate about it. In fact, when I get her newsletter, I find myself getting excited just from reading it. She really does love what she does. It shows in the way she talks, and in the content of every article she writes.
Now, here's what's surprising to a lot of women - men find that kind of woman captivating. Whether it's your job or a favorite hobby, a man can feel the difference when they are in the presence of a woman who participates in something she loves on a regular basis. It really is hypnotic.

What about you? What do you do that you love? What hobbies do you participate in regularly? Are there books you read that make your soul come alive? If not, then you'll likely put too much pressure on a man to make you happy. Honestly, a man will sense that, and feel that pressure.

When you make a relationship just ONE of the things that brings you joy, a man will notice that, and take notice.

Emotional Dependency - Men Love It

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Whenever you hear the word “dependency,” most of us think in terms of some form of addiction or disease. It tends to imply something that should be avoided, fixed, or terminated. Most individuals with dependencies are those with addictive personalities, and thus rely on others to meet their needs and fulfill their responsibilities. Not the type of person you want to be in a relationship with, or aspire to become.


What if I told you that making a man emotionally dependent on you was a good thing? In fact, what if.... click here to read more.

Top 10 Blogs For Women

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I was pleasantly surprised "Understanding Men" was selected as one of the Top 10 Best “Love” Blogs for women by AllWomenStalk.com. I was in good company with other blogs from strengtheningmarriage.com, Glamour magazine and marriage.families.com.
Thanks so much AllWomenStalk.com!

You Don't Have to be Perfect

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What do men really want in a woman?

After years of listening to women in my private practice, many seem to think that men expect nothing less than perfection. If you were to visit some popular men’s websites such as; askmen.com or maximum.com you would certainly think that unless a woman is both highly attractive and incredibly accommodating, that men have no interest. This is not really accurate. At least not in the way you might think.

I often illustrate this to women by asking this question:

“If you had a choice between two men and everything about them was exactly the same, with the exception of one being worth millions and one being poor, who would you prefer? Would you select the wealthy one, or the one who was poor?”

You Know the Answer: If they were equal in all other aspects, most women state that they would choose the wealthy gentleman. I mean, why not if everything else is equal?

Now when men hear this some are likely to say, “That’s right, all a woman cares about is a guy who makes a lot of money.” In fact, that conclusion would be incorrect. A man would be wrong to assume that just because a woman likes the characteristic of a man with money that she cannot love a man unless he is wealthy. In fact, most women I speak with tell me this, “It isn’t that he has to make a certain amount, but I would like to know that he has the potential to make enough for me to feel comfortable.” In fact, most women are willing and/or expect to help out financially.

This same standard applies to men. If given the choice between.... To continue reading Click Here

If it could happen to Rihanna…..

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Why do some women end up with losers or abusers?


The answer - abusive men are often exciting. Their passion, when properly applied, can be quite captivating. Unfortunately, they frequently use that same passion when they become upset to inflict evil upon a woman. Often their victims say that their rage seemed to appear “out of nowhere.”

In addition, many women in this situation often use this phrase, “I know what he did was bad, but when he’s good, he’s sooo good. This bad stuff isn’t really him. I know the person he truly is.” What’s sad is that they often see this man as someone who is basically good who just happens to lose his temper on occasion.


What they, and hopefully Rihanna, need to remember is what James Allen once said:
“Circumstances don’t make a man, they reveal him.”


If a man ever hits a woman that violent nature was inside of him before he ever met that woman. She did not cause or contribute to that violent nature, nor is she responsible for it.

The Bachelor Dumps Both Women?

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I admit it - I watched a portion of the final episode of the bachelor. I bet many of you did too.


For those of you that missed the final episode - let me recap….



As those of you who have seen the show know, by the end of the series the choice is narrowed down to only two women. The bachelor has to select one of them. In this instance, the bachelor (Jason) dumped Molly at the final rose ceremony in favor of Melissa. A few weeks later, again on national television, Jason changes his mind and dumps Melissa in favor of Molly.


My wife called me into the room where she was watching the “After the Rose Ceremony” portion of the show, and she kept uttering these words, “I can’t believe that guy. How could he do that to those women?” (She said a lot of other things about Jason, but I would rather not repeat them).


Of course I had to enlighten her as to exactly how Jason could do that to those women.…


Jason appears to be one of those men that is in touch with his feelings (possibly too in touch with them).

Was Jason being dishonest with Molly when he initially cut her loose, and then with Melissa a few months later when he changed his mind, and decided he preferred Molly? I don’t think so. I suspect that Jason confuses intensity with intimacy. He assumes, like many men (and women as well), that the stronger he feels about someone, the more compatible he believes they are. As you can tell from watching, this only works when the relationship is going well. However, once things start to “normalize,” which eventually, occurs in every relationship (i.e., you get more comfortable with each other, start to recognize a few minor flaws, etc), this is a recipe for disaster.


What is the solution?


Surprisingly, it isn’t that Jason can’t ever find and/or keep love. It is that he is the worst person to try and find love in the format of “The Bachelor.” He needs to date someone for several months, (preferably longer). The woman needs to get accustomed to his moodiness. When he’s motivated and inspired, he is magical, but when he has doubts, he can be extremely unpredictable with his feelings. Only women with very high self esteem need consider dating Jason. At least based on what I witnessed last night.


One Final Observation…


Do you know who I was most impressed with? It was Melissa.

When she was riding away in the Limo she said to the camera, “I know that there is something about me…” I was so impressed by her willingness to consider that she might be contributing to her pattern of relationship breakups, as she indicated that this “always happened to her.” I thought that took a lot of courage and I don’t believe she is that far from discovering why she is “always the one being dumped.”
All she needs is someone who can show her how to change her pattern.

The Danger of Chick Flicks

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It's similar to men that use Pornography as an escape (Notice I said similar, not the same). It isn't that women don't know that a movie is just a movie, but watching enough romantic comedies, over time, tends to alter your view of what is a realistic expectation of a man.
See for yourself.

How To Tell if He'll be Faithful

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I read this post which I think represents the views of a lot of women. Apparently her bad experiences with men has made her pessimistic about relationships in general.
Instead of thinking men can't be faithful, wouldn't it be easier just to weed out the cheaters before you gave your heart away? This is why not allowing a relationship to proceed too fast can prevent you from falling in love with the wrong man.
How do you keep your relationship moving slowly? Simple, don't allow him to spend as much time with you as he would like.
I know that doesn't sound like much fun for you either, but unless you see how he responds when he doesn't get his way ( not seeing you a lot), you'll never know how he will act under the pressure in the future.

If You Want More Sex, Do the Dishes

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This one if for the guys. Especially the married ones. It may not make sense to you but many women have told me they tend to agree with this research. Kinda common sense, but it gives you a different perspective on how women think. Not all women, but a lot of them.

Here's the link The term for this new insight is Chore-Play. Guys, remember it's all about what works, not whether we think it makes sense to us.

What Happened to the Real Men?

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Every now and then a reader of "The Woman Men Adore...and Never Want to Leave," will send me an e-mail complaining that my book suggests that women should become subservient to men. They speak of equality, and not allowing a man to ever take advantage of them, etc. They give me the impression that a man being chivalrous is somehow a bad thing?


Kathleen Parker, Columnist and Author, believes that such an attitude in our society is actually robbing men (and women) of the kind of manhood that most women crave. Katherine believes that most women do desire a brave soul that would go out of his way to protect and cherish the woman of his choice. I agree with Ms. Parker. In the name of equality, many women are asking for something that looks good on the surface. However, a closer look reveals that looks can be deceiving.


Equality is great in a business setting, or among peers. Unfortunately, it rarely works too well in a romantic relationship, because the very nature of that type relationship is based on compliments - not equals. A woman's softness, not her toughness, inspires a man to be brave. This does not mean a woman is required to be a doormat. It just indicates that if you want a man who is protective and strong, he must feel that you need him. Otherwise, he will treat you as an equal. He will respect you, but you won't feel cherished.

"Men Love Long Hair" - Advice from a Woman?

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Here's the quote from the owner/founder of The Millionaires Club. It' always interesting when a woman points this out. She also said this, ""Men have to learn to be men. Women have to learn to be women. The feminization of men has made them metrosexual, lazy or both."
Here's the full article here.

Women Haven't Adapted to Casual Sex

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I can sometimes do without the almost religious fervor of evolution this and evolution that, but the findings are quite interesting. I wonder if women just weren't designed for one night stands?

See for yourself.

I especially found it interesting that quality seems to be more important than quantity.

Women's Fashion for Men

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This is just one man’s opinion, but you’ll find his opinion is more universal than not. Oh, and the stuff he doesn’t like, take that with a grain of salt.

Fashion Tips for Women

Marriage Advice for the Ages

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Some advice is predictable (better communication), some is fun (sex is good for a marriage) and some is just simple. In fact, sometimes the answer to a successful marriage can be found in focusing on what happens day to day between a couple.

It isn’t the big things that matter so much; rather it’s how you treat your spouse daily that makes a husband devoted for life.